09 Apr 2015
by growingmuses
in childhood memories, Crafts, creativity, growing-up, Parenting, self-reflection, survival skills, Teaching moments
Tags: birthday parties, craft projects, Harry Potter, Harry Potter party, Hogwarts, Hogwarts Express, invitations, Party Compulsive Dysfunction, Pintrist, stress, Three Broomsticks
Why do moms have such a propensity for guilt? 
Why does this guilt seem to surface most visibly around our children’s birthdays?
I have a secret to share: I suffer from a lesser-known anxiety disorder. It’s called Party Compulsive Dysfunction. I’ve had this affliction going on nine years now. It is a wholly personal affliction that usually sets in 8-12 weeks ahead of either one of my children’s birthdays.
I suffer from PCD because I am under the false pretense that having in-home birthday parties is more low-key and easier than the expensive, elaborate off-site parties so prevalent these days.
(how very wrong this assumption is) More
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09 Feb 2015
by growingmuses
in bi-racial, education, global, growing-up, Multi-ethnic, Parenting, Teaching moments
Tags: A Path Appears, Chinese School, Jessica Posner Odede, Kennedy Odede, Kenya, Malala Yousafzai, Nicholas Kristoff, PBS, Save the Children, Sheryl WuDunn, Shining Hope for Communities, SHOFCO, World Moms Blog
This post originally appeared on World Moms Blog February 8, 2015 as part of a three-part series supporting #aPathAppears and @SavetheChildren
I have long been an advocate of girls education. It is something I want every girl, wherever she is in the world, to have access to. I deeply believe educating girls is a key piece to improving our world.
So when my daughter was born eight years ago, I committed myself to ensuring that she would always have access to and the support she needs attaining the best education my husband and I can give her.
But along with the paramount importance her education is to me, so too is her understanding of how valuable having an education is and how lucky she is to have safe schools and many choices available to her.
But how do you impart this on an eight-year-old? More
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20 May 2014
by growingmuses
in childhood memories, education, growing-up, Parenting, self-reflection
Tags: career change, going back to work, Life Coach, raising kids, SAHM, starting kindergarten, stay-at-home-mom, working mom
I have to move on from the somber subject of my last official blog entry here. There Are No Words was a cathartic piece to write but the experience of my friend’s loss rattled me more than I realized. As a result, I’ve spent much of the time between late November and now reflecting on the brevity and uncertainty of life.
It’s time to focus on the many positives that have occurred since last year’s tragedy. For one thing, my youngest child turned 5 (and the parents among us know that 5 is a huge milestone in the parenting world).
Once your youngest child turns 5, my husband and I refer to it as the point in parenthood when you finally get to “come out-of-the-weeds.” Five means we are just months away from full-day kindergarten, and isn’t sending your final child to kindergarten the chance to reclaim self again?
When DH and I brought our first-born home from the hospital in 2006, life as we knew it turned on its head. When your first baby comes home, everything in life has to adjust to a new baby. When your second baby (or third or fourth) comes home, the baby has to adjust to its new life as part of your family. More
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26 Nov 2013
by growingmuses
in asian, bi-racial, Healing, Marriage, Parenting, self-reflection, survival skills
Tags: Arlington, Cameron Jones, Colt Jones, compassion, domestic violence, Facebook, funeral, grief, healing, Mei Kum Jones, open casket, Scott Jones
Yesterday my husband and I buried our good friend, Mei Kum Jones.
On either side, we also buried her twin baby boys, Colt and Cameron, who would have turned one today. It was unspeakably difficult on many levels.
A week ago, my closest friend called me from her home in Arlington and asked me to confirm Mei’s address. Not one for sensationalism, this friend told me nothing had been finalized yet but that a family of four was reported dead at that address, which was just around the corner from her house. This information was both shocking and chilling and since I was behind the wheel of my car at the time, I called my husband.
After all, if it hadn’t been for Mei, my husband and I might never have met at that fateful Christmas party 13 years ago. More
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26 Jun 2013
by growingmuses
in bi-racial, creativity, education, global, growing-up, Holidays, Marriage, Parenting, self-reflection, survival skills, Teaching moments, travel
Tags: Airbnb, budget travel, challenging comforts, Easy Jet, England, Ireland, Knappague Castle, Krakow, Lady with an Ermione, Leonardo Da Vinci, London Eye, Poland, Ryanair baggage restrictions, Warsaw, Waterford Crystal Factory Tour
In fact, I’ve been halfway there since we booked our first, family overseas trip back in September. Because for me, one of the hardest things about settling down and starting a family has been, well, settling down…
Truth be told, I’d much rather be traveling the world, meeting new people and exploring different cultures, or at least still doing that WHILE having a family. Don’t get me wrong, the kid journey can be pretty amazing too but I’ve been eagerly waiting to have them participate in the bigger journey pretty much since I first conceived our daughter, 8 years ago.
Prior to that time, the world was an open road waiting to be explored. In our twenties, both DH and I did a fair amount of traveling in some pretty extreme locations, predominantly Asia but some in the Middle East too. We carried backpacks and our Angus MacGyver tool was the multipurpose sarong (which doubled as: a dress, a scarf, a sheet, a towel, a curtain). We thirsted for third-world travel, where we found life stripped away at its rawest and yet most complicated state.
Traveling became part of who we were and what drew us to one another, then also how we grew together. Now that we’re married, kids do the same thing for us. More
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16 Apr 2013
by growingmuses
in childhood memories, growing-up, Parenting, self-reflection, survival skills, Teaching moments
Tags: 1996 Atlanta Olympics bombing, American Revolutionary War, Boston Marathon, casualties, marathon bombing, Marathon Monday, Patriots Day, soft target bombings, The Battle of Lexington and Concord
Today was Patriots’ Day in Boston, a day marked by its predictability and routineness. A day that begins April break for many Boston school children; the heralding of spring; a home game for the Red Sox, sometimes a win; and always the running of the Boston Marathon. In fact some people know today first as Marathon Monday, and second for the holiday commemorating the Battle of Concord and Lexington, fought in 1775, marking the beginning of the Revolutionary War.
Today things changed.
I’m thankful that I took my kids away for April Break. Away from usually safe, predictable, routine Patriots’ Day down to our Nation’s Capital, where just about anything can happen. Yet here I sit, feeling safe and unthreatened while I watch news reports of fellow Bostonians feeling shaken and upset.
Two bombs were detonated at the finish line of the Boston Marathon today and at least three people are confirmed dead so far. More
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13 Nov 2012
by growingmuses
in growing-up, Marriage, Parenting, self-reflection, survival skills
Tags: celebrating life, developing wisdom, growing together, having children, life's accomplishments, turning 40
Starting today, my son and I have something in common, we’re both a 4T; it’s just that his is a clothing size and mine, an age.
Today has been looming on the horizon for a good long while now. In fact, in many regards, this celebration began when I turned 38, so unexpected and wonderful was that birthday surprise. Scorpios love basking in the sun, so being celebrated and the attention that comes with birthdays suits us well. In fact, ask most Scorpios and they’ll confirm that we tend toward recognizing the entire birthmonth, not just the day.
Scorpio pride aside, I’m downright lucky that I married the man I did—a man, who speaks his love through action—because so far this month has been one prolonged celebration. From the gathering of friends, family traveling to be together, and the general broadcast over social media, I have no hope (nor desire) to hide my age and, quite honestly, I’m rather perplexed by the notion of people who do.
I’m a staunch believer that age and wisdom go hand-in-hand. More
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01 Oct 2012
by growingmuses
in creativity, education, global, Parenting, self-reflection, travel
Tags: couples counseling, planning trips, realizing dreams, traveling with kids
DH and I once hoped to raise our kids abroad. A few years ago, when DH’s career focus shifted from overseas to California and Texas, that hope dimmed. Such is life, plans change and opportunities arise at mysterious intervals.
So, we have planted our roots in our cozy, New England suburb and begun to blossom. But by doing so, we realize that if we aren’t providing our kids with an international address, then raising them with international outlooks means finding other ways for them to see the world instead.
When life puts up road blocks, come up with alternative routes. More
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15 Aug 2012
by growingmuses
in Friendship, Parenting, self-reflection, survival skills, Teaching moments, Writing
Tags: agrarian school year, Cape Cod, Coxsackie virus, planning summer, summer schedules, summer vacation
Yesterday I let my three-year-old sit on the potty for 45-minutes, having an epic meltdown, waiting for someone to help him wipe. That someone was not going to be me. I’m out of the bottom wiping business.
Did I feel like a bad mother? yes. Did it fry my nerves to listen to his wails? yes. Will I repeat the situation all over again when it happens next? yes.
In just three week’s time he will head off to preschool where no one will be allowed to wipe his bottom. He’s got to do it on his own. But it wasn’t just this motivator that spurned me on, it’s that I’m in Week Eight of the American school system’s ten-week long, summer holiday. I’m toast. More
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28 Jun 2012
by growingmuses
in education, growing-up, Healing, Parenting, self-reflection, Teaching moments
Tags: burying a pet, Butterscotch, death of a pet, pet loss, Rainbow Bridge, roborovski hamsters, talking about death with kids
If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you’re probably familiar with my least favorite, family pet, Butterscotch.
What started off as enthusiasm for a cute and unique, (non-mouse) first-pet for our daughter, quickly evolved into a loathing disdain for a too-fast-too-hold, quick-nipping-nightmare of a rodent.
The divide widened when my daughter—whose only chance to bond with her pet was by sitting in a dry bathtub together while he darted around seeking an escape root—lost interest in the weekly cleaning of his cage and then abandoned feeding him daily rations all together. Guess who got saddled with hamster duty?
DH and I selected this pet for two reasons: 1. because our daughter desperately wanted two mice and this was as close as we could come to a mouse without the tail and infestation issues; and 2. life expectancy for Robo dwarf hamsters is 1-3 years. More
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