This past weekend, despite a growing pile of laundry, a laundry list of to-dos and a total absence of all things fall and festive being done in and around our home, my family and I attended our church‘s All Church Retreat. It wasn’t a casual decision, in fact, in part, the retreat evolved from a conversation I had with one of our ministers last winter. It was the first time the church had ever had an all church retreat and they pulled it off like Houdini; it was magical.
If you’ve never participated in a religious retreat of any sort or don’t even attend a house of worship for that matter, it’s not too late to try one on for size, you may be surprised how well it fits.
I grew up on the Main Line, in a wholly Waspy, highly social, see-and-be-seen sort of church. I have a vague memory of Sunday School, a fleeting recollection of Coffee Hour and a peptic sensation about my family’s actual religious conviction at the time. But the experience was evocative and somehow this half-baked exposure during my formative years stuck with me.
Like many, I exerted a great deal of energy during adolescence and young-adulthood rejecting the establishment, abstaining from anything conforming and shunning all things religious, not spiritual, just “religious.”
Fast forward 25 years: DH and I genuinely invest in our spiritual development and our children are being raised under the same premise. It’s a challenge, living in New England, where religion is a private, closed-door topic and talking openly about one’s affiliation leaves you feeling like a pariah. On the other hand, connecting with like-minded, mutually-seeking travelers on their own religious journey is as exhilarating as being stranded in a foreign culture and stumbling upon an enclave of native English speakers.
And that’s how it felt this weekend, for the first time our church has ever had a retreat, 120 of us gathered in Swanzey, NH and encountered God together. Young kids were taken under the wings of older ones; teens engaged adults in spiritual dialogue; empty-nesters held babies; seniors communed with young families; ministers experienced services as laypeople; and parishioners delivered sermons. Labels were abandoned and replaced by the mutual value we all have placed on our spiritual growth and we left feeling exhilarated and fulfilled. So while many things this weekend may have been neglected at home, the most important things were attended to. Now if only I could figure out how to pull a Houdini act around my house.
Oct 26, 2010 @ 07:26:07
Kyla – I’m so glad you went and had such a great time and felt fulfilled afterwards. I think retreats are wonderful for the soul and not just b/c we encounter God, but b/c we do leave behind our lists and can concentrate on each other and on learning about each other as well as the Lord.
You’ve expressed very well what it feels like to be a Christian in New England – thank you~!
Oct 26, 2010 @ 15:16:31
Thanks Nikki, your comments mean a great deal coming from such an objective, later-in-life Christian as yourself. I wish it weren’t so but then it makes finding those enclaves ever so much more rewarding, doesn’t it?
Oct 26, 2010 @ 11:33:02
Love the comparison to stumbling on a group of English-speakers–so true! Glad you had a great weekend. As for Houdini, our Trader Joes has super-cheap pumpkins. Scatter a couple of those around and you’re good through T’giving. Can’t help w/ the laundry, though.
Oct 26, 2010 @ 15:31:23
Thanks for the pumpkin suggestion…I suppose if I were more crafty I probably could do some spectacular things with all of the fabulous leaves in our yard. Sure would beat the amount of raking I have to do 😛
Oct 26, 2010 @ 22:38:02
Lovely post, Kai! I’m so happy to hear that you had such a fulfilling weekend…I hope that you have a good week! Big hugs to the muses…
-elizabeth
Oct 26, 2010 @ 22:55:12
very stealth launch of your blog my friend…Type A my hiney!
Oct 28, 2010 @ 15:42:11
Sounds like a wonderful weekend. I’m so glad you left behind the nagging to-do list to go with your family. You wrote a very touching, inspiring entry about your spiritual journey. I always love to hear about those experiences 🙂
Oct 28, 2010 @ 22:34:52
thanks for your comments, I consider the spiritual journey in general to be a very touching and inspiring experience!